Bullies are everywhere. Sadly, they seem to be a constant fixture in any social group. It does not matter what age we are, what job we have, where we went to school, what we own, or what we know. If we participate in any social group, we are bound to meet some bullies. Not all bullies are equal.
Some are more vicious and effective than others. Not all social groups are equal. Some attract more bullies than others. The workplace, for example, is a frequent bully hangout. This is because bully strategies are often encouraged and rewarded in the workplace. Online forums are also a breeding ground for bullies because of the same reasons. What is a Forum Bully?
Bullying is about power and dominance. In online forums, bullies use words to intimidate, isolate, and degrade their victims.
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Bullies are generally easy to pick out. Here are some common forum bully traits – • Bullies use unsubstantiated personal attacks to denigrate their victims. Often, they make fun of their victim’s intelligence, get everyone to laugh at him, and in doing so isolates and degrades their target. In this way, their victim is neutralized, and serves as a strong reminder to everyone of the bully’s power. Bullies rule through fear.
• Bullies usually attack weak or new targets. The best way to get yourself into a bully’s little black book of horrors is to appear weak, uncertain, and emotionally vulnerable. New members to a social group are also a bully’s favorite because they are new, unproven, and do not yet have a support system. They are alone – and therefore easier to hunt-down and kill. Forum bullies hate being challenged and they hate losing.
• Bullies hate being challenged and they hate losing. Another quick way to get yourself into the black book of horrors is to publicly challenge a bully, especially a head bully. A bully’s power rests in his ability to control others through fear.
If they are challenged and they lose, it will significantly erode their power. As a result, they will use excessive force to defeat public challenges.
• Bullies usually hunt in packs. There is safety and strength in numbers. As we said before, bullies hate losing, so they try to go for a sure kill. • Bullies are afraid of strength. If they spot strong new members to the community, they will first try to recruit them. If that fails, they will usually leave them alone. Strong targets are risky and usually end up costing the bully more than he gains.
• Bullies are in-love with themselves. They have little to no empathy, and are only interested in their own activities, and their own power. A bully may help others who are in his gang, or help other respected members of the community, but only for his own advancement and glory. Why Be a Forum Bully? Bullying is popular in online forums, and other online social groups because – • The internet is largely anonymous. That when we are anonymous, we feel less inhibited. For example, when we wear a costume and cover up our face with a mask, we feel more free to take risks.
The internet allows us all to easily put on a mask and outfit. Being anonymous creates more freedoms and removes judgement based on physical appearance, race, income, and more.
However, it also allows us to escape responsibility for our actions, including verbal abuse and bully behavior. Many forum bullies use the internet as a release mechanism for their real-world anger or frustration. Since they cannot shout at their boss, co-workers, or neighbors without real-world consequences, they take their frustrations out in an anonymous online forum, where there are no real consequences for their anti-social behavior. • Negative interactions get more attention. Human nature is such that we respond more quickly and more strongly to negative comments. In this way, forum bullies are the ones that get the most attention and the most followers.
This online attention positively reinforces the bullying behavior, which causes more bullying to occur. Today, many people are trying to make money online through advertising. Getting forum attention generates more buzz, this gets them more traffic, which translates into more money. How to Fight Online Bullies Our instinct is to fight fire with fire, to fight the negative by returning it in kind. However, that is a losing battle. One of the key reinforcers for the forum bully is attention. It does not matter to him whether it is negative or positive attention as long as it is attention.
By responding, we are giving the bully what he wants. In addition, by giving an emotional, negative response, we are letting the bully know that he has gotten under our skin. Do not let forum bullies affect you. Forum bullies are the scum of the Earth and they deserve nothing from us – not our attention, not our time, and certainly not our emotional well-being. One of the best ways to deal with online bullies is to hit the delete button.
If we cannot delete their comment in fact, then simply delete it from our consciousness and move on. Forum bullies are after attention so they may try to egg you on by further calling you names, calling you a coward, and raging on in a negative fashion. They will try to bring you down to their own sad level of existence. Days Of Thunder Soundtrack Mp3 Download there. Delete, ignore, and a bully will shout himself out, like a young child throwing a tantrum. Hopefully, he will learn from this experience and find more productive activities with which to fill his time. Otherwise, he will simply continue to fritter his time away in negative pursuits, which will hurt him a lot more than it hurts us.
Do not let forum bullies affect you. Report bullies to the forum administration. The best way to create a healthy social environment is to report bullying behavior to the administration. In this way, the bullying is quickly stopped, and we can all get back to productive and constructive discussions, that actually involve the exchange of information. We want to stop bullying and pointless personal attacks because it will quickly ruin a perfectly good online community. If the community forum gets taken up with mostly tit-for-tat type shouting, nobody in their right mind would want to visit, much less participate. Many people act as if reporting bullying behavior is somehow cowardly, or is a suppression of free-speech.
That is not the case at all. Bullying should be stopped because it is bad for the health of a community, and it clogs up the information channels with useless, pointless, and negative bickering. Bullying and personal attacks are not free-speech, rather it is verbal abuse. If we care about the community, we should all do our part to stop forum bullying.
We are often very affected by our surrounding social environment. The more bullying there is, the more bullying it will attract. If we create an environment that is unfriendly to bullying, then these online thugs will go somewhere else to spread their particular form of decay and rot. Fight fire with water.
It is a big waste of time to interact with forum bullies. However, if we feel compelled to converse with our friendly online thug, then the only way to fight negative verbal attacks is by dispelling it with humor and positive energy. Rehabilitating a forum bully will take a lot of patience and a lot of positive energy. There is little point to it unless we are applying for Sainthood. Most of us do not think of ourselves as bullies. We are all heroes in our own minds, and a bully is no exception. In fact, many bullies see themselves as a fearless fighter for God, Country, and the path to Righteousness.
The truth is, there is a forum bully in every one of us. • Sometimes we get angry, and we lash back at others. • Sometimes we get hurt, and we lash back at others. • Sometimes we are busy, and do not realize that we have said something hurtful or negative. The key though is to recognize those negative actions and to take steps to correct them.
When we commit negative acts and bullying behavior, we not only hurt others, but actually end up hurting ourselves most. You have heard that it was said, ‘An eye for an eye, and a tooth for a tooth.’ But I tell you, do not resist an evil person. If someone strikes you on the right cheek, turn to him the other also. And if someone wants to sue you and take your tunic, let him have your cloak as well. If someone forces you to go one mile, go with him two miles. Give to the one who asks you, and do not turn away from the one who wants to borrow from you.—–, NIV Today, many of us see nonresistance or nonviolence as a weakness.
After all, if we turn the other cheek, we may just keep getting slapped. Therefore, we are encouraged to slap back and show strength. Bullies try to turn everyone into their likeness by calling us cowards for not resorting to verbal violence.
I used to think that “turning the other cheek” was a weakness. After all, why should I spare pain to a bully when he seems to have no concern for me or others. It was not until later that I realized that “ cheek turning” is not really for the bully, but for me. Negative energy infects, and bullies carry negative energy like plague ridden fleas.
The way to combat this particular plague is not by spreading more negative energy. Rather, we want to dispel the negativity with positive energy or just ignore the flea and use plenty of repellent. What really annoys me is when I see a moderator bullying another user. I can’t report them and I can’t block them/ignore them. There is one site I belong to where two of the moderators are always mocking people and calling them names, especially if they don’t agree with their opinions.
I rarely post on the site because I don’t want to be put in their crosshairs but I can’t even lurk on the site anymore without feeling uncomfortable. I like most of the users and learn a lot from their posts but these two moderators are horrible.
Usually, when I see a mean user, I can just block them and/or report them depending on the post. I can’t do that with a mod. It’s frustrating.
Hello, I also experienced intimidation when I was in high school (exclusively for girls, so they were very mean to each others). Today I am 40 years old so it was a long time ago and at the time the medias didn’t talk about bullying (cell phones didn’t existed, etc).
But nowadays,the subject came up again everywhere and it reminds me of what I experienced myself at school (insults without reasons, mockeries, crying hidden in the bathroom, suicidal ideas, etc.) In short, I am not here to tell my story but because I would like to advise you a book I have read and which gives good advice to young people to how survive from bullying (this is the title of the book and that’s what attracted me). My children are still young (5 and 8 years) but I intend to do everything to prevent them from living what I experienced so I am documenting myself a lot on the subject. I share their website with you, there is a list of the chapters inside the book, I found it really good! Good luck for those who still endure this, or for your children if you are parents here.
Thank you for the post. Learned the hard way with forums too. I just started staying away from them. Verbal and emotional abuse is harmful, especially continued for long periods of time. It will drag you down.
I never spent a lot of time on forums, but I went to a spouse caregiver support forum after my husband of 28 years had a serious traumatic brain injury and had to start living in a facility and I felt overwhelmed. Some of the replies were supportive, but I also got statements like “why do people stay married to someone after that, for the money?” What? There were bad experiences on some other forums before I quit them. I decided it was better to swear off of forums in most cases. I’m glad to hear there are some who report the cyber bullies. I was bullied on a forum called babycenter.com.
Its a very large site with lots of users. I made a few comments about a mens clothing line that I don’t care for. I was immediately attacked by dozens of the other moms on the site, who were personally offended because their children wear this brand of clothing. They kept posting to me over and over again, called me all kinds of names, used profanity and for whatever reason, took the time to post pictures of themselves wearing the clothes on the thread we were on to further prove their point. I tried to explain it was just an opinion, but I was attacked repeatedly.
I emailed the moderator who told me that profanity was allowed on their site, it was okay for other posters to curse at me, and also that I wasn’t “allowed” to ask another poster to leave me alone. She said that asking someone to leave you alone was a “TOS violation”. She also implied that as a new member of their board, I should know my place (or something to that effect). It became clear she was already friends with these people. I am still waiting to hear back from the website regarding this, however I have requested that they delete my profile because I am afraid of some of the posters there.
One of them started digging up other posts I’d made elsewhere on the site and responding to those. My real name is not there, but I revealed some personal information I shouldn’t have. This experience honestly makes me wonder about the other adults I meet in real life. Would they be like this on an internet message board?
I have no idea why so many people bully online. I’d mainly attribute it to an unhappy home life or other situation. However, it’s not an excuse. The bullied should never become the bully. I have compassion for people cause so many people seem to be going through so much, but as I said it’s still NO EXCUSE for trolling and bullying innocent people. What I’ve been most baffled by lately is either the moderators or the developers of Opera Browser and Pale Moon Browser troll and cyber bully users for not understanding information or suggesting(in a kind way BTW) that they make moderate improvements to the site. For example, a friend of mine was confused as to why she couldn’t find Ublock Origin in the Opera webstore.
It was listed under regular Ublock. She was bit frustrated by it and gave the PRODUCT, not the developer, a one star review.
She was then told by a user named “Videogame57” that she needed to “use her brain” before she went around giving one star reviews. It was totally unnecessary. He made it obvious he was most likely one of the developers of the product. People give one star reviews all the time. No one at Chrome or Firefox has ever blasted, humiliated or insulted me for not being pleased with a product.
It’s not like reviews are meant to be hateful or personal. The moderators at Pale Moon are just as immature and highly unprofessional. A “user”(most likely moderator) came down on her for telling them that she had issues using the browser after downloading it. Nothing insulting at all. She was then scolded for creating a forum account “just to complain.” My cousin finally got fed up of the abuse and sent both Opera and Pale Moon a shout out on ComplaintsBoard.Com.
Thank you for posting. I am finding it helpful. I am a newbie on a forum and no matter what I say, I get targeted by rogue moderators accusing of distrupting the forum when I havent done a thing. When try and tell them that I havent they go for me more. They are really singling me out and they go on to every thread I go on and have a go at me if I post anything – usually in polite response to another user flaming me. I have been accused of going off topic even though others have, told to stop doing some thing that I havent done and sworn at and get a traid of rude comments etcno matter what I write all the users just attack me and then the moderates step in and attack me more accusing me of going of topic.
Every single time I try and post after a while a moderate comes on and attacks me and makes rude comments and accusations. I am so sick of it. I dont know if its just the forum or me not doing well on the forum – I just cannot seem to say a thing without a moderator barking at me and breathing down my neck for nothing. I just dont know whether its me or them. Sorry for posting twice.
I have simply havent got a clue why they all hate me and want to attack me all the time. All the moderators just gang up on me and some of the users. Eventually I will always get picked on. I am at the end of my tether and I was so of them of them picking on me I basically said “leave me alone” but I kind of think that it has give them bait to attack me more and bark at me for every minor thing. I am so stupid.
They got what they wanted – rip of me. The adminisrator is even worse towards me if I complain. • Aya Hajime says. I sense some BIG changes coming in terms of cyber bullying laws. On a radio show it was reported many trolls are actually being paid to go onto blogs/forums to cause distractions so nothing of true value can be gained as part of the New World Order.
There are 45 goals for a complete communist/Marxist dictatorship rules and over half of them have already been fulfilled. I believe this is all designed so that when Martial Law comes it will be easier to lock down the internet. We are seeing small signs of it already with Obama hiring Czar type thugs to monitor EVERY thing you type or say including but not limited to email/telephones bank accounts.etc. I don’t disagree with anything in your hub, it’s well written and is a great perspective. I’d just like to add that there is also the situation where a person may percieve they are being bullied when in fact they are not, written text is sometimes easy to misinterpret, whether it was sarcasm to drive a point home or some other comment to offer perspective or question and dig for the other side to expand an argument into good debate- it can easily be seen as an attack when it was not.
What becomes worse is when others join in to discuss it and the one who is on the minority side of a disagreement may feel as if they have been ganged upon when really, it’s simply an attempt to have indepth debate. That does not mean bullying isn’t real, and doesn’t happen. It happens a lot. But there are also many cases of percieved bullying and it perhaps is even worse to be perceived if it has legitimately happened before when the “victim ” assumes they are a repeat victim.etc it’s a great article. We just need to remember to spot the difference when we can- and in both cases.fight fire with water like you said! What a great analogy!!! I’ll leave the name of the forum off, but I was recently on a forum making a wrestling diary made a mistake in the diary and had a wrestler that did not wrestle in the 2001 era, I was quickly called out by 2 people on the forum who attacked me for making a mistake in the diary dome.
Then my email on the website was spammed first by one guy then user after user joined in spamming my inbox. Then they got ahold of my actual email address and began spamming that one as well. I had been a member of the site for about 2 years before this, I rarely ever visited the forum till late. I once had a conversation with a member on the forum who was upset because his nephew had passed away. I talked about how I had been through hell these last couple of years and how my baby cousin who was 5 months old and suffered from hypoplastic left heart syndrome.
Well some of the users on the forum hacked into my inbox on the forum and took pictures of this conversation and posted it all over the forum as about 10 different users took turns making fun of my 5 month old dead cousin. One guy even stated wonder if the dead baby is being eaten by worms now, then they took turns making jokes.
I complained to the moderator and about an hour later I found my account was banned from the website. I did have a second account though to the site and logged in it to read a moderator posting a comment that I had complained to him and the other moderators of the website, about the inbox hacking, cyber bullying etc, so we had to ban the idiots account for complaining. And then the moderator started telling dead baby jokes like how do you make a dead baby float?Take your foot off of it’s head. I wanted to share this story to show the truth of cruel people can be on forums. The reason why the religion threads become a slow train wreck is because both Atheists and Christians use the King James Bible which has poor translations from the original Hebrew words like the original Hebrew for “Thou Shalt Not Kill” means Thou Shalt Not Murder but the translation was off because after all it was written by humans over centuries which then becomes like The Telephone Game.
I actually was at a church that had kids go straight to the KJB which my parents pulled me out of because they knew it was bad news since that particular bible is NOT for beginners with it’s hard to read passages and kids will easily quote a passage out of context if they are not careful. When Dad went to a supposed Christian forum to have an interesting discussion about archeology stuff that has been found all he saw were threads were two people were cussing each other out and the mods doing nothing about it. Not even locking the threads when they were out of context. I have seen that as well on religion and spiritual forums get ruined any chance of decent conversation unless it’s a cliched group and then you have to know somebody in that group in order to get any advice or you will be looked upon as suspicious. • georgethegent says. @snakeslane – Thanks snakeslane. I think it can sometimes be difficult to walk away.
@LindaSmith1 – As far as I know, HP temporarily bans hubbers who personally attacks another, if they are reported. @MomTech – Thanks MomTech. Happy Holidays and thanks for dropping. 🙂 @PWalker281 – “People are reporting this behavior, but it appears HP isn’t doing anything about it despite the fact that it violates the HP TOS.” That is an interesting point. Different people have different opinions as to what constitutes bullying. As you say though, we always have the power to take our attention away.
@CMHypno – Yeah, sadly bullies are everywhere. The worst bully I met was this girl in middle-school and high-school. She controlled everyone in the class through intimidation and making life miserable for anyone who dared to challenge her.
I think support from parents and teachers can help a lot in these cases. I know that Yahoo Answers deletes personal attack type posts and bans the user. I don’t participate on Facebook much, do they also remove personal attack type posts? Is there a simple way to report bullies? This is one of the best descriptions of online bullying and what to do about it that I’ve ever read. It confirms for me that a fellow hubber I’d just started chatting with via email is, in fact, a bully.
I interpret the “turn the other cheek” passage from the Bible to mean that what we put our attention on expands. By turning the other cheek, we take our attention away from from the negative behavior, and, as you say, when we do that, it dissolves because we are no longer feeding it.
People are reporting this behavior, but it appears HP isn’t doing anything about it despite the fact that it violates the HP TOS. A wonderful hub! Rated up and across the board.
“Some people try to be tall by off the heads of others.” — Paramahansa Yogananda Most of us encounter adult bullies at certain points in our lives. An adult bully can be an intimidating boss or colleague, a controlling romantic partner, an unruly neighbor, a high pressure sales/business representative, a condescending family member, a shaming social acquaintance, or other types of abusive relationships. On the surface, an adult bully may come across as aggressive, demanding, and domineering. However, with an astute approach and communication, you can turn aggression into respect. Here are eight keys to successfully handle adult bullies, with excerpts from my book: “.” Not all of the tips below may apply to your particular situation. Simply use what works, and leave the rest. Keep Safe The most important priority in the face of an adult bully is to protect yourself.
If you don’t feel comfortable with a situation, leave. Seek help and support if necessary. Contact law enforcement, emergency hotline, crisis hotline, social agencies, or legal representatives if you have to. Should you decide to deal with the aggressor, consider the following skills and strategies. Keep Your Distance and Keep Your Options Open Not all adult bullies are worth tasseling with. Your time is valuable, and your and well-being are important. Unless there’s something critical at stake, don’t expend yourself by trying to grapple with a person who’s negatively entrenched.
Whether you’re dealing with a road driver, a pushy salesperson, a hostile neighbor, an obnoxious relation, or a domineering supervisor, keep a healthy distance, and avoid engagement unless you absolutely have to. There are times when you may feel like you’re “stuck” with a very difficult person, and there’s “no way out.” In these situations, think outside the box. Consult with trusted friends and advisors about different courses of action, with your personal well-being as the number one priority. We’re never stuck unless we have blinders on.
Keep your options open. Keep Your Cool and Avoid Being Reactive “Bullies win when you’re upset.” — NCAB A common characteristic of bullies is that they project their aggression to push your buttons and keep you off balance. By doing so, they create an advantage from which they can exploit your weaknesses. If you are required to deal with an adult bully, one of the most important rules of thumb is to keep your cool. The less reactive you are to provocations, the more you can use your better judgment to handle the situation.
Some scenarios may require a strong and assertive response, while others may be handled simply with you being unimpressed. Either way, keep your cool when you approach the situation. Maintain superior composure. Know Your Fundamental Human Rights A crucial idea to keep in mind when you’re dealing with an adult bully is to know your rights, and recognize when they’re being violated. As long as you do not harm others, you have the right to stand-up for yourself and defend your rights. On the other hand, if you bring harm to others, you may forfeit these rights.
The following are some of our fundamental human rights: You have the right to be treated with respect. You have the right to express your feelings, opinions and wants.
You have the right to set your own priorities. You have the right to say “no” without feeling. You have the right to get what you pay for. You have the right to have opinions different than others. You have the right to take care of and protect yourself from being threatened physically, mentally or emotionally. You have the right to create your own happy and healthy life. The Fundamental Human Rights are grounded in the United Nations Universal Declaration of Human Rights, laws in many democratic nations protecting against, exploitation, and fraud, and, if you’re in the United States, the U.S.
Constitution and Bill of Rights. These Fundamental Human Rights represent your boundaries. Of course, our society is full of people who do not respect these rights. Bullies, in particular, want to deprive you of your rights so they can control and take advantage of you. But you have the power and authority to declare that it is you, not the bully, who’s in charge of your life. Focus on these rights, and allow them to keep your cause just and strong.
Utilize Assertive and Effective Communication As mentioned above, avoid interacting with aggressors unless you absolutely have to. When you are required to deal with one, strengthen your position by utilizing assertive communication skills. For more on this topic, see my book (click on title): “.” 6. Talk About Your Experience Some victims of adult bullying remain quiet about their experience, and hide their suffering within.
Reasons for keeping silent may include, and are not limited to, shame,, denial, a sense of helplessness and powerlessness, as well as, cultural, social, and/or institutional conditioning. However, being a quiet victim is not only mentally and emotionally unhealthy, it can encourage the bully to repeat and intensify their aggressive behavior. No matter how difficult the circumstance, seek out trustworthy individuals to confide in, whether they be friends, family, confidants, counselors, or operators on a crisis hotline. Sharing your experience is not only cathartic; the support you receive may often strengthen your ability to handle the challenge. In Serious Situations, Proactively Deal with the Problem Early On and Formalize Your Communication.
With adult bullies whom you need to interact with on a regular basis, it’s important to put a stop to any serious, potentially damaging patterns early on. Let yourself, not the bully, be the one who sets the tone of the relationship.
Whenever possible, formalize your daily communication with the bully by either putting things in writing, or having a third party present as witness. Keep a paper trail of facts, issues, agreements, disagreements, and timelines. Build a strong case of factual evidence against the aggressor.
In addition, identify whether there may be other victims of the bully, and consider a joint, formalized response. Leverage strength in numbers.
Set Consequences to Compel Respect When an adult bully insists on violating your boundaries, and won’t take “no” for an answer, deploy consequences. The ability to identify and assert consequence(s) is one of the most important skills you can use to 'stand down' a difficult person. When effectively articulated, strong and reasonable consequence(s) gives pause to the adult bully, and compels him or her to shift from violation to respect. In my book (click on title) “”, consequence is presented as seven different types of power you can utilize to affect strong and positive change. Source: In conclusion, to know how to handle adult bullies is to truly master the art of communication.
As you utilize these skills, you may experience less, greater, better relationships, and higher communication prowess. You are on your way to success! © 2016 by Preston C. All rights reserved worldwide.
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I had one in a workplace and no matter who I talked to above me, it fell on deaf ears. I kept trying to keep my distance from them, but they kept putting me in situations where I had to work with them. No one would listen and they thought I was nuts when I tried to explain it. Wish I would have recorded some of the stuff, but it was just my word against the bully. They believed the bully. So, I finally quit.
I said enough of being treated this way. I valued my life far more than this workplace did. My entire childhood was filled with bullying from some siblings and I learned coping skills detachment apathy and psychical separation. The bullying included domestic abuse from them to me I never started fights but have scars on my body from me being on the losing ends of fights that my siblings started. I completed my educated and moved 2,000 miles away. I cut ties with the bullies, period. If they weren't my friend I wouldn't be friends and the blood tie means nothing if they're a sadist.
Decades later.who's the most solvent of us all guess who owns property and assets that's right me the one who was bullied. Most of the others are drug addicts and alcoholics none succeeded in parenting my nieces and nephews are a mess. They can't ask me for a penny I would rejoice in saying no but they treated me so poorly they know it's impossible. Unless you repent, bullies, you'll never prosper it's the law of nature.
Bullies are people too, and they just choose the wrong or harmful courses of action when they deal with you or I. And if not careful about one's own behavior, the victim can become the bully and not know it or refuse to see. Powerdyne Obd 1 6 Keygen Download more. Bullying behaves more like a disease than a monster or beast. Anyone can be infected by this and best to not get contaminated yourself, but luckily there's always a cure for it. But it isn't bettering the bully or putting the bully in their place.
It's realizing all this 'bully and victim' and 'only the strongest survive' idea is all in our heads. Just ideas and believes that can just simply.change if entertained enough. I found your article enlightening, but no one seems to address the person who hacks into your cellphone and/or iPad to prove they can do it; who lives near you but has never met you and decides to jump up and down when you are sleeping or follow your every move because he/she can (via that hacked cell phone).
OK, so she is lonely and jealous. That is no excuse. I do not respond to anything she does, except to make my devices more secure.
I know she is sick, but I am stuck with her as a neighbor. Aside from moving, what can I do?